Sunday, January 9, 2011

Scrappy Sunday--What if they Don't Like Me?

A few weeks ago, I was on the phone with a friend and when I got off the call, I immediately began analyzing it. Did I say the right thing? Was her response unfriendly, or was she just tired? And the big question--Does she like me?

I've asked myself these questions over and over through the years. But this time was different.

Rather than go through the old rigamarole, analyzing everything I said and she said and worrying about it, I asked myself a question--Why am I so anxious about this? The answer came clearly--it boiled down to this one thought. What if they don't like me?

And once I phrased the issue clearly, I could see how silly all this anxiety has been. People, for the most part, have liked me. Not everyone, but that's ok--I don't need the approval of everyone in the universe to be good, or happy, or worthwhile.

I immediately put aside what I was working on at the time and created this layout. Somehow, seeing the question written out (in adorable little thickers, no less!) makes it feel more manageable. Like it's something I can conquer.

So here's to 2011, where my word of the year is BELIEVE. Believe that all things are possible. Including believing in myself.

What do YOU need to believe in this year?

PS--This is my layout for this week's Sketchy Thursdays challenge! Go here to play along--I love finding new talent and fun blogs that way!

34 comments:

  1. I believe that is an awesome layout!

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  2. Well said Keshet! I believe that it is an anxiety that lots of us deal with. It is a hard thing to believe in oneself all the time!

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  3. Your layout is great and a wonderful way to reflect on a feeling I think many people experience.

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  4. =) I LOVE this layout! I think everyone feels like this at one time or another.
    xo

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  5. First of all I love your layout! And I so recognize myself in your story. The insecure feeling I also have if people like me, like the jokes I make or like the way I look....
    I wish I just could think, I'm ok,...take it or leave it...lol...

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  6. I think as women, we all go through times of feeling that same way...wondering if we will be liked. And while I don't care if every person I meet likes me, I would like to think that I leave a good impression with most people I meet.
    Good for you for recognizing this and even making a page about it!! :) I think when we are aware, we can then take steps to start to change the way we approach and think about things. But, we have to conscious of it first.
    Great page and thanks for your honesty.
    XO

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  7. Great word to start out this year! Great job and very inspiring!

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  8. Wow, I SO know what you mean...
    I used to be a lot more shy than I am today - I hated approaching people I didn't know, even if it was only to ask a little question. Thankfully, today I'm better at this. I think I just realized that "hey, who cares what this saleswoman (for example) thinks about me?" and it became easier for me to talk to complete strangers whom I anyway shouldn't care what they think about me.
    *But* when it comes to people that I do want them to like me and I want to make friends with them, it gets a bit more complicated... Suddenly I start analyzing the conversation we just had and - like you described - ask myself if I said the right thing, how did I sound, maybe I should have smiled more, maybe I smiled too much etc etc... :)
    It's so nice to know I'm not alone in this, so thank you for this post, Keshet. I love how honest and genuine you are.

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  9. I struggle with the same thing! Love your layout!! :)

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  10. i like you, Keshet. I like you a lot!! :))

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  11. Adore you. And I need to believe in me this year. My word is peace and I know I can find it and channel the truth in my soul... I'm not really that deep, but OLW makes you go all philosophical sometimes, right? :-)

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  12. i think you are incredible woman!!! xox

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  13. I know exactly how you feel!! I love your word and the layout! :)

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  14. Great layout Keshet.
    This year, for me, I need to believe that I can finish things that I start

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  15. love the lo. and you are not alone.

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  16. Hehe! Thickers help a lot don't they? I just love your honest journaling and great word for 2011!

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  17. What a great layout! So personal & honest. I think that's the fear we all have.

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  18. If they don't like me, they must not be like-worthy themselves :) cute layout :)

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  19. Love your layout. I too used to (still do) wonder if "they like me".
    But the older I get the easier it is to just let it go.

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  20. oh, my gosh i am exactly the same!

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  21. Beautiful layout - and what's not to like about you?! :)

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  22. Love the layout Keshet!
    I still wonder this a lot and then wonder why I care! A constant circle of struggle!

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  24. Keshet, I love the honesty in your layout! You are brave for facing that insecurity head-on. It's something I think every woman can relate to at some point. (I certainly can!)
    Did you mist those little thicker letters?

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  25. I have liked you from the minute we "met";) and I can totally relate to feeling this way from time to time. Fantastic LO!

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  26. Love this LO! Love your word for the year too! I believe that I will continue to be inspired by all my blogging scrapbookers (and that includes you!). Have a great day!

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  27. I do the same exact thing. Overanalyze. It can really get me down sometimes, those pesky what-ifs. But like Dr. Seuss (I think) said, "The ones who matter don't mind, and the ones who mind don't matter."

    And yes, what's not to like about you??? :)

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  28. I love that you just stopped what you were working on to do this layout. Now that's inspiration! Such an awesome layout!

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  29. YES. This is me. I know how you feel, I hate feeling this way, I fight feeling this way, & yet I still do. Such an awful cycle but at least you know you are not the only one. Thanks for being honest, as usual.

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  30. Hi Keshet!

    Awesome layout, so honest and inspirational!!! Thanks for that :)!

    X
    Anja

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