Monday, February 14, 2011
A few weeks ago, S started a new job.
A new job with longer hours and more stress, but better pay and more opportunities. It's been an adjustment for both of us. He has to balance the things he likes to take care of at home with the unpredictability of work.
On my end, I have to get used to being on my own more. (I've rented Sex and the City 2 on itunes toward that end. Just in case.) Last week, I went grocery shopping for all of the items needed for Shabbos--which I haven't done since 2007. Literally:) I walked in circles looking for the eggs until my friend Shaina magically appeared to help me out.
And the hardest, scariest change is knowing that we'll probably have much less time together in the few years to come. That dinners will be eaten alone more often, and dates will be canceled. I hope the fun that we share will continue with the same frequency.
I hope we'll always stay as connected as we are now.
But instead of worrying (although I do my share of that), I try to focus on action. Turning away from the computer and the to-do list and toward S so that when he's home, we spend some time really together. And I also have the comfort of knowing that no matter what a given week is like, Friday evening will roll around and the rest of the world will fade away (blackberries turned off, phone off the ringer....) and it will be just me and him and the candles burning. Every single week.
This Valentine's Day, how are YOU staying connected?